Why I am worried about Angelina Jolie, Part II

WOMEN NOT TRUSTING WOMEN


The other reason I am worried about Angelina is that she has no girlfriends. BIG RED FLAG! She didn’t say in her interviews but I wonder if she is one of those girls that thinks other women are just “jealous and catty.” Anybody who is a woman who goes into friendships with other women believing that all women are b*%^es, will always act in a way that will get other women to appear “jealous and catty.”

For example, I had a girlfriend in college who thought all women couldn’t be trusted. Later, I heard her exclaim how weird my boyfriend acted when she rubbed his leg with her arm accidentally while changing the radio station when he was giving her a ride somewhere. Funnily enough, it was a bench seat station wagon. It took me a while to connect the dots. Pan to a scene starring me a week later …”Wait a second,” I suddenly thought, “what is she doing on a bench seat sitting so close her arm is rubbing his thigh…?”) That friendship ended eventually. And it is true, there are occasional toxic women out there that give us all a bad name.

Maybe Angelina was traumatized by a friendship. Who knows? Maybe she has difficulty making friends, is socially anxious and doesn’t know how to act.

GAG girl takeaway:
Some women do behave poorly to other women. I think that it is a societal issue that naturally happens with oppressed minorities in a competitive, capitalistic environment. However, if a woman thinks all other women are bad, watch your back because they are probably projecting their own ethics/behavior patterns onto others.

 Having strong female friendships with healthy compassionate women is good self-care! I don’t know what I would do without my gaggle of girlfriends.

Call out to Angelina: “Reconsider, hon. We are not so bad.”

Why I am worried about Angelina Jolie, Part I

I like Angelina Jolie for one big reason: She donates her time and energy to a worthy cause, the United Nations. (I hate it when celebrities start their own charities just so they can waste tons of money in start-up costs. When you sign up with UNICEF or the United Nations,you are taking a huge machine of good and making it go further, faster.)

However, I am worried about Angelina for two reasons:
1. She may be  “giving it away ” for her boyfriend Brad.
2. She doesn’t have women friends.

IS ANGELINA GIVING IT (“IT” meaning food) AWAY FOR BRAD?

Angelina is scary skinny. I am concerned she is keeping herself skeletal thin for her honey bunny, Brad Pitt.  Since she has been dating Brad, she is just so emaciated!

My suspicion about Brad Pitt  is that he loves his girls very close to the bone. Remember his long time affair with the skinny minny Juliette Lewis? Gwyneth Paltrow? Thandie Newton?  Heroin, anyone?

JENNIFER AND BRAD
When Jennifer Anniston was married to Brad, she was perpetually on a severe diet, and all she ever talked about was food…”Brad and I love when we can go out and get nachos … We love to do these banana shakes,” I would see her say in interviews.

Everybody knows that when you restrict your calorie count to crazy low levels, all you can think about is food. It is a survival/starvation thing. I suspect poor Angelina is working hard at not eating to please her man.

Girlfriend Aside: (I once had a girlfriend whose husband told her he wanted her to be super skinny, “so I can feel like when we are making love, I could possibly just break you.” EEEK!!)

NOTE TO GIVE AWAY GIRLS(GAG): NOT EATING TO PLEASE BOYFRIEND IS A DEFINITE GAG GIRL NO NO!  

Often times, GAG girls go to extremes to make their partners happy.

Stay tuned for the No Girlfriend Problem.

 

Self Care and Body Image

Art drawn by my friend, Rebecca, who does her art whenever and wherever she can. Good self care.

Artist, Rebecca Kauffman, who does her art whenever and wherever she can. (Great self care.)

Do you “Fat Talk”?

I don’t know why we do it but most women I know are not great at providing nourishing care to themselves, especially when it comes to body image. I am guilty of it too.  I am the FIRST to start fat talking with my girlfriends.  “No pie for me, I am HUGE today…” They roll their eyes. Than somebody else pipes in. Most of the time, I eat the pie anyway…

I know, I know, I am a therapist.  I am not supposed to enter into the world of negative self talk.  It is not good self care at all!

But it happens.  Anyway, I found a wonderful blog about body image, self esteem and eating.  Please read it and sign up.  I did.

http://blogs.psychcentral.com/weightless/

Investigation: What happened to Ann Curry at the Today show?

Doesn't Matt look pleased as punch? Photo attribution http://www.flickr.com/photos/denonnie/

Doesn’t Matt look pleased as punch? 
Photo attribution http://www.flickr.com/photos/denonnie/

Where is Ann Curry?
I don’t know what happened at the Today show. If you are not aware, the Today show is a nationally syndicated TV show that comes up on the mornings on NBC. About a year ago, there was a lot of press about how Matt Lauer, the lead anchor, didn’t want Ann Curry (his 54-year-old co-host) to work with him anymore. Therefore, she got dumped by NBC.

And why is that relevant one year later?
Well, it annoys me that Matt Lauer is now surrounded by these two beautiful YOUNG women that look suspiciously like twins. (By the way, they also look like his model/wife, but that’s for he and his analyst to work out. He lives in New York and they all have analysts there, not therapists.) (And don’t we ALL know about the twin fantasy thing? So predictable!)

Incidentally, Savannah Guthrie and Natalie Morales appear to be smart, competent journalists who I am sure deserved their promotion. I am not annoyed with them at all.

But, I still don’t know why they dumped Ann. I mean, somehow, even at 54, Ann didn’t have any wrinkles. Ask any woman journalist in television media, and she will probably tell you that wrinkles on a woman are the kiss of death. In fact, it is rare to see wrinkles on any women in the media at all, much less the news.

WOMEN IN EUROPE VS USA
Interestingly, when I was in Europe 5 years ago, I was shocked by a cover of a magazine that had Sarah Jessica Parker on it. What shocked me were the wrinkles around her eyes. I didn’t know she had any! As I looked around at the cover of the magazines, I noticed the American stars didn’t look the same as they did in the USA. I realized that the American magazines airbrushed the wrinkles and the European magazines didn’t. That sucks.

I know Diane Sawyer is an exception in that she is a journalist who is older and on the national news. However, wasn’t she a Miss America winner? Does that really count as TV being open to televising older and aging women?

GAG GIRL TAKEAWAY: Life isn’t always fair. Keep your head up and have a back-up plan if things don’t go the way you want — or deserve.